Over 90% of an iceberg's volume and mass is underwater. The part we can see is only a marker, a hint of something much greater beneath the surface.
Often in life, we go with what we know making the best decisions we can and when they don't go as expected, blame ourselves for our blind spots. Yet, the SOUL has a mysterious yet effective way of working with the ego in order to draw us into a deeper sense of ourselves, of our vast presence outside of our minds. Sometimes, this can be painful. The ego tries so hard to get things right, to keep us safe and to avoid pain.
However, when we go into blame and self-doubt,we are missing a really great opportunity to become more intimate with ourselves and reap the rewards of the experience.
I am feeling raw over such an experience myself as I write. This time I was able to navigate away from self-blame and while I am still smarting from it, am feeling my heart more than I did before. Through this space I am also able to sense and connect with you differently than I might have otherwise.
I had a really great post lined up last week about expectation, attachment and how getting in other people's business to control an outcome demonstrates a lack of trust and often works against us. That message was truly the tip of the iceberg.
The hidden part is that it's not a mistake when we get something different than what we thought we wanted or needed. We simply need to shift our perspective and honor what we received. In the process, we are actually being called into deeper self-trust, not of the mind, but of the soul.
Through this we may also release others from the need to fulfill our expectations and take what we deem would be their next best step. We allow ourselves to honor them and their process right where they are in trust they are where they need and are choosing to be.
We then stay out of their business and free them to be who they are instead of who we expect them to be. As an added bonus, by not judging them and developing compassion, we are able to turn this heart energy inward as a gift of self-acceptance even when things don't go according to plan.
So, what to do with the pain? It's quite simple, really. Feel it. Feel and sense where it takes you. See how it allows you to be more connected to yourself and others. Then, openly ask what it's teaching you, what you can see that you didn't before. Know that it had it's purpose and say "thank you" for the understanding and experience you received.
I believe we can rise to our personal and societal challenges by embracing the spirit of adventure and the enduring wisdom of nature.