Warning: this may challenge your inner do-gooder!
Lately, I have been noticing the prevalence of apologies offered in the general public. For instance, have you ever had somebody in front of you in the grocery aisle stop dead in their tracks, realize you were behind them, quickly move out of the way and then say, "I'm sorry!"?
I don't know about you, but I am getting painfully aware of the number of times I will hear this statement on any given day for circumstances that would have otherwise gone by unnoticed.
Generally speaking, I find it is women more often than men who are keen to offer such apologies and frankly, it's really beginning to irritate me as all too often women disempower themselves by taking responsibility for things that have absolutely nothing to do with them.
I investigated the etymology of "I am sorry" and found out the phrase was born in the middle ages and used to describe a state of being poor and wretched. LITERALLY! Those were dark and dreary times and it was very rare that those in poverty would ever find their way out. Thankfully we are not living in the middle ages anymore and in our society rags to riches success stories abound.
All you "Law of Attraction" fans and those conscious of the power of the spoken word, take note: when you say "I'm sorry" for no good reason, you are simply stating you are a cash-poor wretch! Thus, if you want to create more wealth in your life, you might want to become more aware of your use of this phrase.
For example, last week I was out on a road bike trip with some friends when I got an unexpected call from my son's school letting me know I had to come pick him up immediately. We were out in the middle of nowhere and although I fought to return to my car by myself, our gracious hostess would hear nothing of the sort nor would the rest of the bunch. They made it clear that if I was to return to my car, they were all going back with me to make sure I found my way. I struggled with this for a moment as I didn't want to be responsible for them not getting to eat their lunch at the planned time. Then, I realized it was their choice and stopped arguing about it. When I arrived back at my car, instead of apologizing to everybody for these unforeseen circumstances, I looked at them and said, "THANK YOU."
What difference did this make? Well, I didn't feel poor or wretched. I felt grateful to have such a group of wonderful supportive friends!
Here's to the POWER OF GRATITUDE. Everybody is talking about it these days as an important tool in getting what you want in life.
Therefore, next time you feel an impulse to say your sorry, ask yourself if this is what you really want to say or if there might be a more powerful way to express your consideration or concern for others.
I believe we can rise to our personal and societal challenges by embracing the spirit of adventure and the enduring wisdom of nature.